What about casual sex?

What about casual sex?


I know I don’t have to tell you that gay men enjoy sex, honey. But so does everyone else – it’s called being human. One thing that separates us from the rest of society, unfortunately, is our experience with casual sex. It’s become a stereotype we often try to fight against (even though behind closed doors we might be Grinding away), but there’s a hidden truth that most of us might fail to see: casual sex is not for everybody.


Contrary to popular belief, you don’t need to be out in the clubs or on Grindr looking for your next hookup in order to be a successful gay man. When I was in my early twenties, trust me, I had a hell of a lot of fun. But today it seems like more and more young men are getting pressured into having casual sex simply because their friends are doing it. This cannot be healthy.


What works for me might not work for you, and vice versa. Just because your roommate is totally comfortable having casual gay sex doesn’t mean you will be. It’s become hard for people to say, “I’m not good at casual sex.” For whatever reason, we feel like everyone will assume we’re needy, we’re easily attached, or we’re emotionally unstable if we can’t bring ourselves to having casual encounters. Well, I say, screw them all!

Casual gay sex isn’t a requirement for gay men. It’s not some phase you “have to” go through nor is it detrimental for your overall mental health in the long run. Don’t get me wrong, there are a lot of guys who go through a two-year phase – having a lot of sex almost as soon as they come out as a means to rid themselves of all the built up suppression. That’s fine too, but not everyone needs to experiment as much as their bestie (who’s set the bar pretty high).

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I have to admit, I used to be a judgmental creep when it came to stuff like this. Because I was so promiscuous in my early twenties, I thought everyone ought to be. It wasn’t until ‘t one of my good friends had just come out and immediately got involved in a long-term relationship that I started to question myself. I naively thought he was damaging his future because he hadn’t gotten all the “men” out of his system yet (like I was in the process of doing). Well, in the end he got the last laugh because he and his partner have been going strong for nearly ten years.

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5 thoughts on “What about casual sex?

  1. I LOVE to see bare, uncensored dick. Sucking it and swallowing it are favorites as is being nude. I’ve had my share of casual sex too, giving blow jobs to guys I don’t know but enjoying it all.

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