It’s a running joke in most cities that bottoms are a dime a dozen and that a good top is hard to find. (And, yeah, that a hard top is good to find.) But even if tops are a rare breed where you’re from, just because they’re in demand isn’t an excuse for them not getting the job done, if ya know what I mean. Who hasn’t been with a top at some point in their “sexual careers” who needed a few pointers to up their sexual game? Well, that’s who this story — a quick reference guide to tips for tops — is for.
If you’re a top, read up. If you’re a bottom, send it to your top partners (in a friendly way, assuming you wanna get them back under the sheets). A great sex life is within everyone’s grasp, and here’s to making the most of it.
Become the sex partner all bottoms crave with these 6 useful tips for tops.
Tips for Tops #1: Most importantly, be proud of your tool
No, you don’t need to be XXL and thicker than a baguette to be an excellent top. And all bottoms are not size-queens — far from it, actually. So forget about your complexes and be proud of your tool whatever its size or shape! You will gain confidence and be better able to please your partner.
And for tips on how to make your potential partner a little more eager to meet you, take a look at this guide to snapping the perfect dick pic. It can come in handy!
Tips for Tops #2: Don’t skip foreplay
Some “tough tops” tend to think foreplay is a one-way street. Huge mistake. Tops can suck dick, too! Foreplay is also a great way to turn on your partner before descending gradually to his favorite area. Yep, you’re gonna need to “prep the area” — a crucial step, especially if you are well-hung. Play around with your fingers (don’t forget to trim those nails, boys!) or use a sex toy, and use all the agility of your tongue, too.
Tips for Tops #3: Knock before entering
We can’t believe we find ourselves saying this, but no one likes to be taken by surprise, so go easy when you penetrate your partner for the first time. Be generous with the lube, insert your penis gently and don’t be afraid to ask the guy if everything is OK (and ask often) or if there’s a position he’d prefer.
You’ll get every chance to prove how much you can fuck like a porn star when you’re both running on full steam.
Tips for Tops #4: Be a chameleon
A great top is a chameleon. Sometimes he’s hard up for it, sometimes he’s a romantic; sometimes he’s a dom top daddy, sometimes he’s in a docile mood. A great top must stay in tune with his partner and always pay attention to what’s getting his partner off. If you always stay in your comfort zone — well, what a snooze. Alternate your pace — sometimes slow, sometimes fast — and add some fiery kisses to that thrust, dammit!
Always observe your bottom and see what’s working. Don’t forget to change positions along the way (especially if you’re the type of top able to pound your partner for hours). And don’t limit yourself to classic missionary and doggy-style.
Tips for Tops #5: Handle the setbacks
Going soft can be a top’s worst nightmare. Instead of panicking, handle the situation. If your engine takes time to start, don’t quit the race. Go back to foreplay and use everything at your disposal to stimulate your partner’s erogenous areas. If you’re up for it, maybe you can switch roles. Being on the bottom from time to time gives you some insight into what your partner feels, and you can use the opportunity as a learning experience.
On the opposite side of the ‘setback spectrum,’ sometimes you’ll be so horny that you’re ready to shoot right out the gate. If it’s not too late, find an alternative to penetration, which will give you time to cool things off a bit. If your fireworks were already launched, offer your bottom a second round, knowing that this time you’ll likely be able to last longer.
Tips for Tops #6: Always finish the race
Let’s say you’re the first to come. Don’t even think about bowing out! Your lover deserves a climax, too, so before you stow your junk be sure to help your partner hit his sweet spot, too. He’ll be grateful for that, and you’ll have a better chance of repeat fun.