A new study of sexual minority youth in Tennessee found that youth who lost friends while they came out were 29 times more likely to attempt suicide than those who didn’t. Those who experienced psychological maltreatment from caregivers were 9.5 times more likely to report a suicide attempt

LGBT International – News – 07/04/2017


New Study Finds Losing Friends When Coming Out Could Have Dire Consequences

Lack of Acceptance When Coming Out Ups Likelihood of Suicide Attempts For LGBT Youth

A new study of sexual minority youth in Tennessee found that youth who lost friends while they came out were 29 times more likely to attempt suicide than those who didn’t. Those who experienced psychological maltreatment from caregivers were 9.5 times more likely to report a suicide attempt. The authors highlight the need to create affirming spaces for these youth, especially in areas that experience greater political oppression, like the Mid-South.


Discrimination And Provider Knowledge Have Big Impact on Trans Health
A new analysis of the National Transgender Discrimination Survey found that 30.8% of transgender people delayed or did not seek needed health care because of discrimination, and those that had to teach their doctors about trans health were 4x more likely to delay needed health care. The authors call for systemic changes in provider training.


Bi EDM Aficionados 4x More Likely to Report Lifetime Use Of Novel Psychoactive Drugs

Researchers asked electronic dance music party-goers about their lifetime use of novel psychoactive substances and found that bisexuals were four times more likely to use these drugs versus heterosexuals. Interestingly, almost 12% of the full sample reported being bi and 5% gay/lesbian; we usually only see about 4% reporting being LGB in the general population.





Do Gay Guys Secretly Want to be Demisexual?


Have you heard of an orientation called Demisexuality?


David Artavia

I hadn’t either until about three days ago, so you’re forgiven. Last week, a friend of mine came out as demisexual. After finding out what it is, the term finally made sense.

UrbanDictionary defines demisexuality as a lack of sexual attraction toward any person unless they become deeply emotionally or romantically connected with a specific person or persons. The level of connection it takes for sexual desire to form is dependent on how close the relationship is rather than initial attraction. It is an orientation that is not chosen.

In other words, their sexual appetite only appears when they fall in love.

Demisexuals aren’t suppressing sexual desire; it’s simply not there until a bond is formed. They can’t look at a stranger and think, “Wow I want to f*ck him”—while they might admire a person for his or her body, the urge to have sex isn’t there until an emotional attachment is formed. The deeper the bond, the hornier they are. It’s a simple matter of the heart leading the pelvis.

I’ve been in the gay dating for a long time and if there’s one common thread I see, it’s the constant wishing. We want Prince Charming to walk through the door and carry us away, but what we fail to understand is that Prince Charming is also looking for a Prince.

We distract ourselves through hookup apps and convince each other that casual sex doesn’t desensitize us from love, but the truth is it does—we don’t want it to but it does.

As a writer I’ve interviewed countless of single gay guys from around the country. By far most of them express a requirement for physical attraction, and admittedly it’s the thirst for visual/physical/sexual attraction that leads our hearts rather than the other way around.

Men will always be men—we’re visual and can’t help it. I’m not going to lie and say that sexual attraction isn’t important from the get-go. It is. But I can’t wonder how easier (or better) my life would be if I were demisexual.

It seems like single gay guys want to be demisexual. Their wishes and dreams often sound like the construct of demisexuality: “I wish I found a guy who doesn’t always think about sex,” “I want sex to mean something,” “Gay guys always want a hot body right now rather than taking time to fall in love.”

Do gay guys secretly want the life of a demisexual? It seems like the soul, mind and body of demisexuals are perfect solutions to a long-lived preconception some gay guys try to separate from: promiscuity, casual sex, 24/7 horniness.

We are who we are. I know I’m not a demisexual and that’s okay. I accept it. Sexual attraction is very real for me at first impression—demisexuals might never know what that’s like and that’s okay too.

But the idea of demisexuality seems to be the very wish gay guys often try to bestow on each other to no end; then they get angry if it doesn’t hold out. But they also can’t be surprised.

The answer is to find a happy medium.

A man whose pelvis leads his heart is as much in trouble as a man whose heart leads his pelvis. In this world, both will get us in trouble. Whatever the case may be, sex and love can exist on the same plane without interfering if you truly allow them to do their role. Be truthful with yourself.



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